After a full-to-brimming week, I am finally sitting on my balcony with an October breeze and a quiet Amman below, ready to recount. Today is Eid al-Fitr, which literally means "holiday of breaking the fast." It comes at the end of the holy month of Ramadan and is an important, festive, family-oriented holiday whose closest American equivalent would be Christmas.
No one knows which day will be Eid until the moonrise the night before. We didn't know whether the Eid would be today or tomorrow until about 8pm yesterday, when the new moon was officially sighted. If this had not happened, fasting would have continued for one more day, and then the Eid would have been Saturday instead. In fact, because of geographical distances, some Muslim countries do fast for an extra day and celebrate Eid on the 31st day of the month instead of the 30th.
Shortly after 8pm last night, I watched as private fireworks displays shot off one after another all over the city. And then, the shopping began! In Amman, people celebrate the night before Eid by flooding the commercial districts and malls late into the night. I ventured out with some Jordanian friends, Adib and Mohammad, whom I had previously met through a local Rotaract club, and we found standstill traffic when we tried to go downtown - at 1am!
The three of us, in Adib's little white car with big stereo speakers, zoomed off the highway and went to a different district of the city instead, (once you're near downtown, you can get anywhere in Amman in about ten minutes) to a hidden Lebanese pizza joint which had drawn a bustling crowd to the otherwise tranquil, winding streets of the neighborhood of Jebel Webdeh.
To backtrack for just a second, we had begun the night at Adib's home with a cornucopia of "helwyiet," or desserts, for the last night of Ramadan. The tradition of hospitality here continues to astonish me. Adib's mother (and the live-in southeast Asian maid - which seems to be about as standard here as a microwave in American kitchens) had laid the table with ten different types of sweets. There was Arabic ice cream (slightly stickier than regular ice cream, and pistachio flavored) gitayyef (special Ramadan desserts which are like half-moon crepes stuffed with either cheese, nuts, or both), baklawa, dried fruit and nuts in syrup, and several other honeyed goodies whose names I can't remember. I blame it on the satisfying sugar coma that soon ensued.
At any rate, by the time we got to the restaurant, Adib and I weren't too hungry. Nevertheless, I agreed to taste a little of Mohammad's pizza, and true to his hospitable form, he ordered three! The restaurant was take-out only, and so we sat among other young people our age on the stone walls lining the streets, under a leafy canopy of trees. The air - a perfect temperature for a relaxing outside - was filled with a collective sigh of relief after a month of fasting, and the anticipation of several days of celebration. We sat for hours, trading English for Arabic grammar and vocabulary, talking comparatively about family and religion, all the while pleading with Mohammad not to order any more food. (He ordered two more pizzas anyway.)
As a sidenote, I think it's interesting that the common Arab celebration image that we see in the media - people shooting their rifles in the air - no longer exists here in Jordan since it was replaced with fireworks by an edict from King Abdullah. Shooting still happens in other countries (people were killed as recently as two months ago, for example, in Iraq, during celebrations for the Iraqi national soccer team) but people here seem to have replaced rifles with fireworks pretty easily. I can see wedding fireworks from my window in the evening a couple of times per week.
It is strange to see Ramadan go - it's as if I will wake up on Tuesday to a new Amman. I have become accustomed to organizing my meals (they must be eaten at home or discreetly in the bathroom between classes) and my movements (it's difficult to get a taxi around 3pm when everyone is going home or around 6:30pm, right before iftar) around a Ramadan schedule. In addition, as this month is focused on family, hospitality, charity, and self-discipline, it has given me unique opportunities to learn about the fabric of family life here. I have had a wide variety of delicious iftar experiences - everything from being a guest at a luscious five-course meal, to bringing a simple meal to orphans with a local Rotaract club.
To elaborate on this latter part a bit more: Rotaract is a youth service club connected to Rotary, and I've been lucky enough to connect with a local chapter. They do various service projects around Jordan, such as fundraisers and educational events. I went with them one night in the second week of Ramadan to an orphanage in Marqa, about 25 minutes outside of Amman. We brought an iftar meal of chicken and rice (cooked by another family in Rotary) to a house for boys. An orphanage here, I learned, is not necessarily a house for children that have no parents or family, as I had assumed. Many of the boys that we met had families that could not afford to take care of them, and so they have sent their children to the "orphanage." The kids see their families on special occasions, but otherwise they stay together, where they are educated and taken care of by the government.
We ate dinner with about 40 boys who were sweet and well-behaved, though extremely excited to have guests. Iftar was in a large, plain basement room, at a long table covered in a plastic table cloth. The room was clearly multipurpose, as I saw classroom posters on the walls. Although I could speak to them in simple Arabic, the boys knew enough English to ask me if I liked Bruce Lee and Jean Claude Van Damme. I guess we know which movie genre gets the most play for them. After we had finished eating, the boys used some of the larger Rotaracters as jungle gyms, while they armwrestled and thumbwrestled some of the lightweights, like me. I only briefly considered letting them win before I realized that they were going to win anyway - they were all extremely strong! I enjoyed that such a simple act could make so many people so happy, and I felt as if I was finally doing what I had really come to Jordan to do.
I recall this memory often in my head as I struggle with choices for making friends and socializing here - most of the options available to me are part of the wealthy, elite society of Jordan. As with any developing country, the gap between the few rich and many poor is quite large here, and those that are very educated or even go to restaurants regularly are quite well off. I am constantly thinking about trying to keep a balance between these two distinct worlds, and I'm glad that I have found Rotaract, which seems to be one place where they meet.